Patience is one of the fruits of the Holy Spirit that Jesus sends to his people (Galatians 5:22-23). That is to say that a person with a personal love and respect relationship with Jesus is given the Holy Spirit who endows on a person the ability to be patient if they so desire.
A benefit of being patient is given here. I can calm in a quarrel. Quarrels are part of any and all relationships. The quarrel may be as simple as two people not having the same will and desire to do something. One wants to do one thing and the other does not or wants to do something else. If I am not patient, then I will get angry and create and escalate the disagreement till it becomes a conflict or even a fight; a downright shouting match with angry body movements and evil eyes. Later regrets and bitterness fester that could end a relationship that once had great love and passion. This is the nature of fallen mankind.
The nature of the Holy Spirit is not this way. Therefore, if I get into an enraged conflict then I need to stop, ask for permission to momentarily remove myself, do so, move my emotions and thoughts to the Spirit, and submit to His nature. Easier said than done. But not impossible to the person of God. “Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the sinful nature with its passions and desires. Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit.” (Galatians 5:24-25)
