The fallen nature of mankind contains a desire to be somebody important. Sadly, most are concerned more with appearances rather than substance, often to their detriment. What drives this unhealthy and unhelpful practice?
All have a good desire to be accepted and loved by our peers and neighbors. Usually, our peers and neighbors do not supply the acceptance and love that we crave, especially if we are seen as nobody. At a young age, many discover that if we are somebody, then others are more prone to supply these needs. So outward we begin to look good, while inside we have no substance and no food. Everyone knows that high school clicks form that isolates have-nots. This practice continues thru adulthood and even permeates Christian congregations. What then counters this unhealthy and unhelpful practice?
Accept this truth, “Better to be a nobody and yet have a servant”. In Solomon’s day, even people of moderate means had servants. (Judges 6:15,27) A modern application is to be able to afford to hire contractors to repair things around the house. The point is to stop spending money and time on appearances and apply these to what is practically needed. I apply this truth as being able to accept who I am based on what God says about me instead of what others think of me. Paul wrote, “I care very little if I am judged by you or by any human court; indeed, I do not even judge myself. My conscience is clear, but that does not make me innocent. It is the Lord who judges me. Therefore judge nothing before the appointed time; wait till the Lord comes. He will bring to light what is hidden in darkness and will expose the motives of men’s hearts. At that time each will receive his praise from God.” (1 Corinthians 4:3-5)