BDBD is Proverbs 11:27

Good and goodwill, what are they? What I consider good and goodwill another will not. Jesus defined goodwill as doing to others as I want others to do with me. All have a secret desire for love and respect. Some may want love more than respect while others may desire respect more than others. Women want to be loved more than respected and men want to be respected more than loved, especially when in a covenant relationship before God.

A husband that seeks good – disposition; benevolence; kindness. – towards his wife in the love she craves from him will find her giving goodwill towards him. A wife that seeks good – disposition; benevolence; kindness. – towards her husband in the respect he craves from her will find her giving goodwill towards him.

“A man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh…  However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” (Ephesians 5:31,33)

Yet very bad comes to the one who searches for it, especially in a covenant relationship between a man and a woman. A spouse that seeks to serve themselves instead of their bonded partner will not find goodwill. They have invited evil into their bed, pain that will eat their soul, mind, and spirit. I will seek to love my wife.