BDBD is Proverbs 10:10

A person winks for several reasons. Here a wink is a signal that a person is about to do harm, be deceptive, or speak malicious lies. When I interact with others do I intend to do them harm? A way to determine if am winking the eye is to answer the question, “Would I want this to be done or said to me?”

I do not want to be the subject of grief. Therefore, I should not be the cause of someone else’s grief. When I wink my eye, thus signaling I am about being malicious I should remember that a chattering fool comes to ruin and keep my mouth shut.

My mother use to say, “If you don’t have anything nice to say keep your mouth shut.” A better thought is, “If you don’t have anything nice to say keep thinking and pray for that person and you will.”