BDBD is Proverb 15:1

Me in a bad mood and in the right situation will bring forth harsh words that stir up anger in another and which I will regret later. A gentle answer is easier when I am in a good mood and in easygoing circumstances. But I have limits that prove that I am always in need of divine assistance.

Gideon’s answer to the angry Ephraimites when they asked, “Why have you treated us like this?” is a good example of a gentle answer turning away wrath (Judges 8:1-3). He complimented them. Jesus’ answer to Pilate’s question, “What is truth?” is also a good example (John 18:38). He said nothing.

Nabal’s answer to generous David when he asked Nabal for kind assistance and while reminding Nabal that he had been righteous towards him, his servants, and his possessions is a good example of a harsh word stirring up anger. Nabal’s wife’s answer to David who was going to attack Nabal is a good example of wise gentle words turning away wrath (1 Samuel 25:7-34). David’s repent included these words, “Praise be to the LORD, the God of Israel, who has sent you today to meet me.”

Lord God paint my tongue with the sugar of your Spirit.